Should we expose children to superheros

Do we expose children to Superhero's or not? There are conflicting views on this. Superhero-play, especially with little boys is inevitable. Totally banning them could lead to aggression in the long haul. In our household we have decided to introduce positive values as we guide and cheer on our adventurous little souls while they save the world from destruction and fight evil. I live with three superhero's, seven years and younger who go by distinguished names AB, Nicky and Merav. My youngest struts around creating webs at home in his blue and red Spidy costume (His latest birthday gift). He has hardly watched a spider man movie, but feels the part of a superhero. My oldest and middle child absolutely love their light saber battles. They have fostered deep friendship engaging in action-hero play and testing their physical limit. While my kids categorically love imitating larger than life characters, I do not take it lightly  that I am responsible to guide and advise them against trying out dangerous feats like jumping off buildings and walking into raging fire.

As my children enjoy this wave, I harness this passion through teachable moments and intentional discussions to introduce them to some real life superhero's like Nelson Mandela, Mother Teresa and Abraham Lincoln . Surprisingly the lil munchkins are curious to learn and all ears. I also prepare them to understand that a real life superhero can be some one ordinary with no special powers like their parents, teachers or next door neighbors.

Tips to foster healthy superhero play:

1. Explain to kids the difference between fantasy superhero's and real life heros

2. Help kids understand where to draw the lines when it comes to action play. Never to cross over to aggression and hostile language.

3. Allow them to enjoy an age appropriate superhero cartoon, but train them to stay grounded and not get lost in an imaginary world forever.

4. Show them the ropes to pick the good traits  like generosity, compassion, community help and chivalry from superhero's.

5. Enlighten them on life-skills: how to use power wisely while they learn to negotiate and cooperate, Identify right from wrong and fair from unfair.

 

As parents let's be a guiding force as kids' imagination soar up up and away!

Educate the heart of your child to transform the heart of your world

Today as I spent time helping a dear friend with her beautiful new born I had a flash back down memory lane. I was reminded of the incredible moment in my life when my oldest was born. Nothing compares to the rush and excitement of holding the bone of your bone and the flesh of your flesh for the very first time. As new parents my husband and I were not sure what to expect and how to steward this treasure we were given. Today as guardians of 3 spirited young hearts we are not looking at being the perfect parents but intentional about our parenting. I chose to feed the heart before I feed the head. My focus is not narrowed to raising high achievers rather to raise my bars on Godly character and good virtues with my boys. I believe if you can get this right then your children would grow up to excel at what they were made for.

As a mother I decided to make a list of life lessons I wish for my boys to take when they leave home. As I started off i was not sure if i would have 5 points on that list. As i progressed i was surprised to see how long and daunting it seemed to be. I encourage each of you to take time and journal a list of life lessons you would like to leave with your children. As you pen down your thoughts you will realize what a powerful yet life molding journey you have embarked on with parenting. Investing into a strong foundation of values for your home will leave you and your loved ones withstanding any storm that comes by.

Like many mothers the ongoing world events have troubled me much. It concerns me enough to worry that my children are growing in unpredictable dangerous times. What often keeps me brooding over is the thought that I want to see change but I am limited with my influence and position to bring about meaningful change. As I have been reflecting over these thoughts I have realized that motherhood has tethered me into learning that as mothers we have the greatest weapons of change in our hand. We are positioned with the greatest opportunity to shape young minds to be decision makers for a better world. What is a more important take away for me is my learning that it is matters more to focus on the kind of citizen I help my child become than worry about the world in which he grows in.

The best gift you can offer this world as mothers is to raise your children to be seeds of transformation to your future unseen world. As parents I encourage you to invest into educating the heart of your child, which will bring about change to the heart of your world.