Educate the heart of your child to transform the heart of your world

Today as I spent time helping a dear friend with her beautiful new born I had a flash back down memory lane. I was reminded of the incredible moment in my life when my oldest was born. Nothing compares to the rush and excitement of holding the bone of your bone and the flesh of your flesh for the very first time. As new parents my husband and I were not sure what to expect and how to steward this treasure we were given. Today as guardians of 3 spirited young hearts we are not looking at being the perfect parents but intentional about our parenting. I chose to feed the heart before I feed the head. My focus is not narrowed to raising high achievers rather to raise my bars on Godly character and good virtues with my boys. I believe if you can get this right then your children would grow up to excel at what they were made for.

As a mother I decided to make a list of life lessons I wish for my boys to take when they leave home. As I started off i was not sure if i would have 5 points on that list. As i progressed i was surprised to see how long and daunting it seemed to be. I encourage each of you to take time and journal a list of life lessons you would like to leave with your children. As you pen down your thoughts you will realize what a powerful yet life molding journey you have embarked on with parenting. Investing into a strong foundation of values for your home will leave you and your loved ones withstanding any storm that comes by.

Like many mothers the ongoing world events have troubled me much. It concerns me enough to worry that my children are growing in unpredictable dangerous times. What often keeps me brooding over is the thought that I want to see change but I am limited with my influence and position to bring about meaningful change. As I have been reflecting over these thoughts I have realized that motherhood has tethered me into learning that as mothers we have the greatest weapons of change in our hand. We are positioned with the greatest opportunity to shape young minds to be decision makers for a better world. What is a more important take away for me is my learning that it is matters more to focus on the kind of citizen I help my child become than worry about the world in which he grows in.

The best gift you can offer this world as mothers is to raise your children to be seeds of transformation to your future unseen world. As parents I encourage you to invest into educating the heart of your child, which will bring about change to the heart of your world.

Celebrate each child-Every child is special, unique and extraordinary

I come from a home where ‘ I ‘ was celebrated, ‘I’ was made to feel important and ‘I’ was special. I had a wonderful childhood not because of the things I had but because of the way I was made to feel. God created each child to be a wonderful unique individual. My oldest is spirited and he loves all the attention he could possibly have. He loves to play with automobiles and planes. My second is calm (now moving on from there) and independent. He loves to play with pots and pans. My third is a mix of both. What motivates one child does not motivate the other. Each of my pea's is so different although they are from the same pod. They are uniquely different in their personalities, interests, strengths and capabilities.

As for me I wish every little boy were calm and easy to parent. I wish every little boy would play with automobiles and planes. However, I have learned that there is absolutely no value in comparing our children to the other. As parents, my husband and I are constantly reminding each other to be conscious not to exercise favoritism. As parents, we have realized that each of our 3 children possess different strengths and require unique support to meet their individual needs. It is up to us as parents to be involved with our children, to observe their gifts and to help nourish them. I am reminded of the famous verse “Children are like arrows in the hands of a warrior”. We have to be mindful of raising our children, not as objects that we control rather raise them as powerful tools that we can release for a greater purpose.

Every child is a perfect reflection of God’s magnificent diversity. Let's celebrate each of them for who they are and who they were created to be. Every child is special, every child is unique, and every child is extraordinary!

 

 

 

Setting Boundaries

As a little princess in my home I grew up watching Hush Puppies and Mickey Mouse. As I sit down with my 4year old skipping cartoon channels I am telling myself, “Gone are the days of clean entertainment”. Kid friendly channels like Cartoon Network are no longer safe with its "adult" programming. But as we have learned that it’s not safe to hand a knife to a five-year-olds, we need to address the dangerous effects of allowing kids to view violent and profane viewing material. Setting boundaries with my kids of what they can watch and read has not been the easiest task, but one that still needs reminder and enforcing. My quest ever since has been to identify value based movies, cartoons, channels and books for my kids to enjoy. Here is my favorite pick : Cartoons:

Thomas and Friends, Bob the builder, Franklin and Friends,  Daniel Tigers neighborhood, Veggie Tales, Dora, Winey the Pooh.

Websites:

Educational city, Cbeebies, Woodland primary,  PBS

Movies:

Finding Nemo, Ice age,  Cars,  Sound of Music,  Babe,  The chronicles of Narnia(for older kids)

Books:  

Dinosaur Farm, Curious George,  Dr Seuss,  Bernstein Bear, Operation Alphabet, Chronicles of Narnia(for older kids)